If you haven’t had a natural birth yet, then don’t do it. Go for CS. CS is very safe these days with increasing knowledge in science but natural birth is natural. It’s not like its just pain in natural birth, its excruciating pain. Don’t let anyone tell you different. I thought it would be easier the second time around. Just allow me to share with you my natural birth experience titled ‘Tips for ladies in labour during natural birth’.
I started feeling the contractions from the day before, but it wasn’t so pronounced, just like a slight menstrual cramp. I went to the hospital to see if my baby was still in her breech position, that is, feet or bum down as opposed to the head. Thankfully she wasn’t. On my way back, the contractions intensified. They were bad but well spaced out and not unbearable. I went home, boiled some water and proceeded to soak my feet while I ate oats and searched through my phone book for whom to fight with because I was crankier than a bear in heat. I still didn’t think I was going to have my baby that day. I mean this was earlier than my expected due date (EDD). And although they tell you the baby can come 2 weeks before or 2 weeks after, I still was so sure I wouldn’t be in the labour room that day, so imagine my shock when the space between the contractions started to increase. I called my doctor and he said I should start coming to the hospital, but as painful as my contractions were, they were still bearable so I didn’t go. I just dragged my box and baby’s things downstairs. I figured I’d go after watching ‘Hotel Majestic’ by 8pm. But my baby had other plans.
I got to the hospital at about 9pm accompanied by my dad and my uncle. They helped me settle in and proceeded to sit as well. I made a play list of Yanni and Earl Klugh and kindly asked them to leave. The contractions were getting stronger and for some reason I didn’t want them to see me fall apart. They left; I turned my music on to the loudest and tried to breathe. Needless to say, those breathing exercises on YouTube are ‘shit.’ I took in and blew out every single breath but it didn’t work. I thought I was going to lose my mind. Then the doctor came in and told me I had dilated only 2 cm. With all that pain? And I was going to 10cm. I almost wept. This went on till about 11pm. Then my husband came in. I seriously still think I asked him to leave because I wanted to be alone. But he didn’t listen. The truth is though, by that time I was half out of my mind in pain. I just remember holding him and not being able to do much else but scream. The doctor came in by 12 and said the baby was crowning and they took me to the theatre.
The water that always seems to break in movies refused to burst for me so the doctor had to burst it. It is called the amoniotic sac. The water splashed all over the place and was so warm that for a few seconds I thought it was blood. My husband was still holding my hand but all I felt was pain. I think I told him to leave me alone but again, he refused to listen. I can’t really remember. But when the doctor told me to hold my ankles and bend down. Ohhhhhh my loooord. I thought my brain was going to come out of my vagina as well. The pain is indescribable. It’s like you’re being split into two. I didn’t stop pushing till my baby came out. Then there was a little challenge. The placenta refused to follow suit. The doctor had to reach in to pull it out and I swear that was 10 times worse than the labour itself.
All I can say is I thank God for life.
Seven months later, I still know how the pain feels but the truth is, with natural birth, as soon as the baby comes out, that’s the end of all the pain. Especially when you don’t have a tear. My baby was 3.6kg. No tear, no complications and you can call this a mini testimony.
Peace and love.
Ms Ssygala, is the mother of two rambunctious kids and blogging is her last line to sanity
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